Offered by Susan Chavez, Richard Lambert Foundation
The holidays are generally time spent with family and with those we love most. Those grieving the death of a loved find it difficult to celebrate and the need for support may be the greatest at this time of year. Holidays can magnify the pain of loss and while nothing can remove the pain, awareness and understanding of grief during the holidays can lessen the impact.
Getting ahead of the holidays by making your friends and family aware that the holidays are difficult and you need their understanding and support in whatever your decision may be to get through them. Sometimes creating a plan A and plan B is helpful. Plan A may be to not host the holiday at your house and asking your family members or friends to host dinner in their home, allowing you time to evaluate what you can and cannot do – be gentle with yourself. Plan B may be to start a new tradition, see a movie, make pizza or take the holiday off entirely and spend time in reflection. Yes, it’s okay to take a year off. The holidays will come back around.
Intentionally remembering and celebrating your loved one in some way is important. Light a candle for your loved one, write a post about a favorite memory, give a gift in their memory, volunteer to serve in a way that honors them. Remind others that acknowledging your loved one will be welcomed, tears or not. Let them know their tears tell you how much they care.
Holidays might prove the most difficult you will ever experience, but with support you can get through them.
We welcome you to join our monthly support group on the 2nd Wednesday of each month at 6:00 pm. The focus will be on “Surviving the Holidays”.
Or join us for a special evening at our Lights of Life Memorial Tree Lighting Ceremony on Thursday December 6th, a gathering to honor and remember our loved ones. For more information and to reserve seating, please visit: www.richardlambertfoundation.org/lights-of-life/.
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